I’m starting this post with a story that shows how important it is to find critique partners who are on the same journey and know how to offer balanced feedback.
Several years ago, I made a big mistake. I showed a friend the first 10,000 words of one of my novels.
It was a first draft and far from perfect. I knew that.
I expected my friend to provide constructive criticism. Instead, I got a shellacking.
We were in a cafe, having a pretty nice time as I recall it, when she blurted out that she hated my protagonist. She went on to slam every word I had painstakingly placed on the page.
Basically, she told me my first 10,000 words were crap.
It was brutal. I sat there as a numbness invaded my body.
It took me a long time to regain self belief and confidence in my writing.
The moral of this story is – don’t show your friends your work in progress.
After this humiliating experience, I set out to find like-minded critique partners.
I ended up with more than one.
I had already formed firm friendships with Romance Writers of Australia (RWA) members who have always been there for me when I’m stuck.
I also joined Writing NSW and found a critique group that accepted me with open arms. The group members write across a variety of genres and bring a wealth of knowledge to our monthly feedback sessions.
And I now have a critique partner I met at a weekend writing workshop run by a well-known Australian author. After the workshop ended, I contacted this person (I’d sussed her out and thought she and I were ‘on the same page’). We’ve shared our work for the last 12 months.
My writing has improved because of these invaluable connections, which keep me engaged with the writing process.
It may take a while to find the right person to read your work but perseverance is the key. I finally managed to get the balance right.
I know what you’re thinking: do I still talk to my friend? Yes. But I never discuss my writing with her. It’s better that way.